FAQ: About My Approach

What is the difference between a Sex-Life Consultant (Somatic Sexologist) & a traditional Sex Therapist?

Unlike conventional sex therapists – who talk to clients having sexual problems and give them advice on how to overcome them. As a Sex-Life Concultant, I can work experientially with clients and use a range of techniques to include: talk, role-play or intimate physical approaches like touching or massage.

What are your protocols and boundaries?

To ensure that my clients emotional and physical needs always come first, I abide by a Code of Ethics: I always remain clothed, touch is one-directional from me to you, guided by you. Touch will only be given at your request and solely for your own benefit, education, and pleasure.

* I am also trained to teach Betty Martin’s ‘Wheel of Consent’. In this case, touch can be two-way, is clothed, and will not involve the sexual organs of either person.

“I agree to guide touch to ensure that it is always beneficial, educational, and pleasurable for me.” – Client Intake Form

Are you qualified?

I am a qualified and experienced complementary therapist.  As a Certified Somatic Sexologist (Sex-Life Consultant), I have been trained by some of the worlds leading Sex Educators and have earned my Somatic Sexology Certificate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. I also bring my own personal experience, which has profoundly shaped my passion for this work.

Where are you located?

In Totnes, Devon.

Who do you help?

I  work happily with anyone who needs my help –  all shapes, sizes, ages, and genders of people. Individuals and people in relationships wishing to learn skills together.

Is my information kept confidential?

Yes, I adhere to professional standards of confidentiality.

What happens if I have medical issues?

Working with a Sex-Life Consultant should not be considered as a substitute for physical or psychological examination, diagnosis, or treatment.

Do I get naked?

This is your choice.

Do  I get touched intimately?

This is your choice.

Do you touch me, or do I touch myself?

This is your choice. Sessions provide opportunities for you to consciously receive touch and massage. You can also choose to involve self-touch within an element of coaching called self-pleasure coaching. If for any reason none of these methods feels appropriate then I can always demonstrate using props.

Do I climax/orgasm?

This is your choice.

Do I communicate?

This is your choice. But, learning simple ways to choose and communicate during intimacy will allow you to explore in new ways that are profoundly satisfying.

Do I practice at home?

This is your choice. When learning an instrument you attend regular lessons, but it also helps to practice on your own between lessons. And, this is the same with any new skill. You will get lots of experience and practice by attending regular sessions, but home practice will help you to learn quicker, and you will get more benefit from your sessions if you do.

Can I change my mind?

This is your choice. Any change of mind within your session is welcomed. You are always encouraged to connect with what feels right for you and your body, at any given moment.

“I understand that I am responsible for communicating verbally if I change my mind about something I have previously given consent for.” – Client Intake Form